We all know that it is really difficult to find our own mistakes and our own faults and correct them but it is really easy to point out other people's mistakes and find other people's faults. this is one lesson that my parents taught me. when I was a child they said, son when you point one finger towards others there are three fingers pointing at you same time.
Key Insights
- It is human nature to find faults in others rather than in ourselves, but this habit can be changed with conscious effort. By focusing on our own mistakes, we can grow and improve ourselves.
- Understanding that no one is perfect and everyone is struggling in their own way can foster compassion and empathy. It allows us to see that people's mistakes are a result of their own struggles and not a reflection of their character.
- It is important to address the mistakes of loved ones, but it should be done in a productive and non-violent manner. Approaching them privately and explaining the consequences of their mistakes can help them understand and change their behavior.
- Speaking to them privately allows for open and honest communication. It creates a safe space for them to acknowledge their mistakes and work towards improvement.
- Praise and appreciation are powerful tools for correction. By focusing on the good things they do, we can motivate and inspire them to make positive changes.
- Seeing the good side and bright side of people helps to maintain open communication. It prevents us from becoming fixated on their mistakes and allows us to appreciate their strengths and abilities.
- Living happily by seeing the good in others and the wonders of the world brings positivity and contentment. It allows us to appreciate the beauty and diversity of humanity.
there are many mistakes in ourselves but we keep on finding other people's faults other people's mistakes but we all know that we should stop finding faults in others but it is really difficult.
Why is it difficult?
It is because of this habit, the mental pattern of finding fault in others.
Luckily, this is a habit that we can change, which we can take control of and stop. so there are a few things that we have to understand and we have to realize to stop finding fault in others and be more focused on ourselves in Dhama pada number 50 the Buddha says one should not find other people's False one should not find what good or bad others have done or not have done rather one should find what mistakes and what good or bad things that one has done or has not done so this is how to be focused on ourselves. Once you realize that no one in this world is perfect, then it is very easy to understand why they make mistakes and why people keep doing wrong things.
Most of the time, we used to complain about why they were doing this right and why people were behaving like this. Why can't they behave like me? Why can't they be like me? But it turns out that no one can be like you do not expect people to be like you okay people are different one person to another and that is what makes this human life and human world so much beautiful because there is this vibrant difference between people in each and every human made thing there is an error so back in those days. when we were learning physics we used to calculate all the things and measurements and when we are doing it. we calculate one thing that is called the human error. That means the nature of humans is that there is always an error, and that error is not always a bad thing. Sometimes it is the most beautiful thing in this world, So understand that no one is perfect, no one can be like you, and no one can behave according to all the ways that you want because people are living in their own worlds in their own lives. They have their own dislikes and likes, so they live according to those intentions and emotions. So we have to understand that no one is perfect in this world and also understand that everyone is struggling in this life.
There is this unsatisfied nature in everyone's life as its. This is one thing that we have to understand. this is one of the major teachings in Buddhism. the Buddha says that realize that there is this unsatisfied nature in your life. Understand as it is and once you realize that there is this unsatisfied nature in your mind you can relate it to other people as well as same I am unsatisfied and same as I am suffering in my life other people's are also suffering other peop are also struggling in their life.
So they will make mistakes they will do wrong things so these are the things that we have to understand just to not to find fals on others but to rather be focus on our mistakes and our doings and non-doings so understand these things and also there's one thing now by saying this should you forget all the mistakes that other people do and just focus on yourself. I would say no because there are people in your life that you should find faults you should care about the mistakes that they do they are the people who live close to your life there are the people who love you most there are the people who you love most always remember when you see such people's mistakes there is a way to correct them okay it is okay to find the fults on those people but there is a way to approach them there is a way to correct them do not choose the easiest way to correct other people's mistake what is the easiest way using the anger and using the violence to correct mistakes on other people this is not a productive way.
If you truly love someone if you truly care about other people's life their their life you should approach them to correct their mistake in a more productive way so you should think what is the most productive way that I can correct their mistakes not to just to hold on to their m not to make them hold on to their own mistakes and keep on doing it not just to make them more stubborn on their
So when you consider about that you you find the easiest way and you find the correct way to approach them the best way to correct someone's mistake is to speak to them privately not in publicly speak to them privately and just explain what makes mistakes that they are doing and explain the consequences of the mistakes and also you have to praise and you have to appreciate the good things that they do the more you see the good side and the bright side of the people. It is very easy to approach them and correct their mistakes the more we see the negative side or the dark side of the people here's one thing happened you lose the ability to communicate because we are reminiscing and we just keep thinking about that all the negative idea or the negative point of that person and just forget about the strengths and all the abilities of that person that we can praise and we can appreciate and by appreciating that we can correct that little mistakes in them.
So that is why just be more focused on the good side and the bright side of the people so keep these points in your mind and live happily by seeing the good of other people and by seeing the Wonder of this world.
CONCLUSION
It is important to focus on our own mistakes rather than constantly finding faults in others. Understanding that no one is perfect and everyone is struggling in their own way can help us be more compassionate. While it is okay to address the mistakes of those close to us, it is important to approach them in a productive and non-violent manner. Focusing on the good side of people can make it easier to correct their mistakes and maintain open communication.
